Experiences stand where opinions fall
"Opinions are like small intestines: every body has one." Anon.
Ask these questions and you'll get an opinion...
What are my options?
Where should I go from here?
What would you do in my place?
Why am I in this position?
Ask questions like these and you'll get much more...
How have you made difficult decisions in the past?
What makes you confident about the future?
What got you through your last job search?
What tough times have you lived through?
The difference is all down to experience...
Nobody ever photographed an opinion
[Image courtesy of EBONY~CAT on flickr]
Opinions that read perfectly on paper or sound just right in conversation don't always work in the real world. When you are job searching or deciding where you want your career to go, opinions can be confusing and that gets in the way.
True experience is always grounded in fact. Good, bad or indifferent, an experience can teach you something. Someone else's experience can be just as valuable to you as it was to them. What you have learned through experience can always be relied upon, it happened to you after all.
Instead of asking someone's opinion, ask what they have done, find out what they lived through, what they rely upon and the lessons they have learned. Find out from them what has worked.
When an opinion just doesn't feel right, seize the opportunity to ask for an experience or share one of your own.
Discover for yourself why it makes all the difference.